Women Don't Owe You Pretty
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- Author：Florence Given
- ISBN：1788402111
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Summary
WOMEN DON'T OWE YOU PRETTY will tell you to。。。
love sex， hate sexism，
protect your goddamn energy，
life is short， dump them，
And that you owe men nothing， least of all pretty。
Florence's debut book will explore all progressive corners of the feminist conversation; from insecurity projection and refusing to find comfort in other women's flaws， to deciding whether to date or dump them， all the way through to unpacking the male gaze and how it shapes our identity。
WOMEN DON'T OWE YOU PRETTY is an accessible leap into feminism， for people at all stages of their journey who are seeking to reshape and transform the way they view themselves。 In a world that tells women we're either not enough or too much， it's time we stop directing our anger and insecurities onto ourselves， and start fighting back to re-shape the toxic structures of our patriarchal society。
Florence's book will help you to tackle and challenge the limiting narrative you have been bombarded with your whole life， and determine feminism on your own terms。 After all， you are the love of your own life。
Reviews
Lea
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I haven't read any feminist or self-help books yet so I have no real comparison （that's why I don't want to rate it） but I didn't like this book very much。Sure she had some valid points and the overall message is an important one but the execution lacked a lot。After the first quarter/half of the book it felt like I was reading the same statements over and over again just in a different framing and it felt like she was talking down on the reader from her allegedly morally higher feminist standpoi I haven't read any feminist or self-help books yet so I have no real comparison （that's why I don't want to rate it） but I didn't like this book very much。Sure she had some valid points and the overall message is an important one but the execution lacked a lot。After the first quarter/half of the book it felt like I was reading the same statements over and over again just in a different framing and it felt like she was talking down on the reader from her allegedly morally higher feminist standpoint。She made everything seem very black or white， all or nothing and if I didn't change everything about me and my beliefs， I would not be a real feminist or be enough， which is exactly the opposite of what I hope she was trying to say。I think loving yourself and not to rely on other people's validation is the most important message in this book。 Treat yourself with respect and don't settle for anything less and it's important to question existing preconceptions and being open to change。The book also did get me to overthink some things I've been doing and that I should probably work on myself so there's that hahaI know there is also some controversy wether or not the author copied off of other people's works， which I didn't know when I bought the book， so I will try to read more diverse books from different voices to broaden my view。 。。。more
Sarah ✿
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The constant repetition of “radical views”and arguments that would’ve been seen as revolutionary 10 years ago to me made this feel like the corny commercial info-graphic stuff you see on Instagram but in book form。 Florence constantly checks her privilege in modern society in regards to her attractiveness as a white cis gender woman but at the same time continues to speak for minority groups and doesn’t give the women she’s talking about （women of colour， trans women， fat women etc） a voice， ins The constant repetition of “radical views”and arguments that would’ve been seen as revolutionary 10 years ago to me made this feel like the corny commercial info-graphic stuff you see on Instagram but in book form。 Florence constantly checks her privilege in modern society in regards to her attractiveness as a white cis gender woman but at the same time continues to speak for minority groups and doesn’t give the women she’s talking about （women of colour， trans women， fat women etc） a voice， instead she discredits them and takes their ideas。 I got more useful feminist theory in the first episode of Fleabag sorry babes 。。。more
Rachel Clark
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Super palatable and fun！ Wish I read this when I was a young teenager
Bruna Muricy
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Great for book for deconstructing some ideas， i highly recommend for all genders。
Anna Dimitroula
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Although this book is nicely written and discusses a variety of sensitive issues really well from many perspectives， it wasn't necessarily groundbreaking news （personally）。 I admire Florence for her path and her growth， as well has her efforts to spread awareness on feminist issues， however it is ironic and disappointing that she preaches accountability and has avoided publicly and privately apologising to Chidera （slumflower） for the gains and accolades she has gained from this book at the expe Although this book is nicely written and discusses a variety of sensitive issues really well from many perspectives， it wasn't necessarily groundbreaking news （personally）。 I admire Florence for her path and her growth， as well has her efforts to spread awareness on feminist issues， however it is ironic and disappointing that she preaches accountability and has avoided publicly and privately apologising to Chidera （slumflower） for the gains and accolades she has gained from this book at the expense of Chidera's book going in the shadows， despite all the knowledge and wisdom within Florences book reflecting Chidera's wisdom and experiences。 Go check slumflowers instagram stories and highlights for more info， and if you want to read this book， borrow it from someone else like I did。 I do not want to condone or endorse more of Florence's and her publishing house's racist actions。 。。。more
greta ⛈️
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just finished reading an ebook of this and i feel like every single person needs to read this at least once in their lives。 this was such a powerful and important read。 i highly highly recommend reading this xx
Karina
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This book did a great job of holding a casual tone （lots of cursing which made it fun to read）， presenting hard truths of subconscious perpetuations of the patriarchy， emphasizing the necessity of intersectionality and humility， and the author’s own experiences and growth。 I especially liked the chapters on consent and concepts of dismantling SHAME。 I did do a lot of skimming because I am well versed on the topic。 But I did write down a lot of quotes and took photos of favorite illustrations （of This book did a great job of holding a casual tone （lots of cursing which made it fun to read）， presenting hard truths of subconscious perpetuations of the patriarchy， emphasizing the necessity of intersectionality and humility， and the author’s own experiences and growth。 I especially liked the chapters on consent and concepts of dismantling SHAME。 I did do a lot of skimming because I am well versed on the topic。 But I did write down a lot of quotes and took photos of favorite illustrations （of which this book is filled！） I also appreciated the glossary with terms at the end for those who may need it。The only thing I disliked was the overuse of pet names towards the reader like “babe”， “darling”， and “hun”。 I don’t use pet names unless I’m close with someone and find them patronizing otherwise。 But maybe that’s my own “internalized misogyny” getting in the way of how friendly the tone of the book is meant to be。 。。。more
Marley Jenks
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changed my outlook on life and am forever moved ！！
Louise
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everyone needs to read this book
Shan（ Shans_Shelves） 💜
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I buddy read this with one of my best friends and it was wonderful！ Florence Given really knows how to write a book！
rachael okane x
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（3。5）- This book was stunning however I think the feminism is quite basic。 I didn’t really learn anything but it was nice to validate some thoughts and feelings I’ve had。 I’d recommend this as an introduction to feminism （or to people who don’t read too much nonfiction） because it’s not very text or information heavy however if you have read books on feminism before I wouldn’t really recommend。
Aileen
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this was not necessarily new information， but it was exactly what I needed to hear right now
Katie Hourigan
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Cba for this kind of individualist feminism/thinking， not going to 'treat my emotional labour like currency' I am not a bank lol she talks a lot about the male gaze but what about the neoliberal/ productive at all times/making your self a brand/monetising ur hobbies gaze。 But also she is like 21 so who am I to say anything lol Cba for this kind of individualist feminism/thinking， not going to 'treat my emotional labour like currency' I am not a bank lol she talks a lot about the male gaze but what about the neoliberal/ productive at all times/making your self a brand/monetising ur hobbies gaze。 But also she is like 21 so who am I to say anything lol 。。。more
Amanda
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There's some good （but not new） concepts in the book， and I do encourage empowering woman， but I found the way the message was portrayed was not well executed。 It was very black and white， which life just isn't。 As it took this perspective it was almost offensive and demeaning in points， especially to the opposite sex but also to some woman。 There's some good （but not new） concepts in the book， and I do encourage empowering woman， but I found the way the message was portrayed was not well executed。 It was very black and white， which life just isn't。 As it took this perspective it was almost offensive and demeaning in points， especially to the opposite sex but also to some woman。 。。。more
Andjelka Jankovic
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“You date someone’s emotional maturity。 Not their jawline。” A very straight talking， informative and personal look at the world of being a female （queer， in Florence’s case） and challenging patriarchal conditioning as well as a lot of Agony Aunt sisterly advice。
sparklygirl822
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i actually feel bad leaving a review for this as i was only able to make it though 1/3 of the book， it just wasnt for mei have been seeking out books on this topic since its something ive been thinking about a lot。 i feel like a lot of the everyone is beautiful is marketing bs and is just used to convince women to buy beauty products， but women！！ we dont even need to be pretty to be valued！ what value is pretty？？anyways， i found out about this book through tiktok and someone said it was radical i actually feel bad leaving a review for this as i was only able to make it though 1/3 of the book， it just wasnt for mei have been seeking out books on this topic since its something ive been thinking about a lot。 i feel like a lot of the everyone is beautiful is marketing bs and is just used to convince women to buy beauty products， but women！！ we dont even need to be pretty to be valued！ what value is pretty？？anyways， i found out about this book through tiktok and someone said it was radical and eye opening， but in reality， this book reads like a modern feminism manual for gen z， which i dont think is a bad thing at all！ if you are looking for an overview of feminism or if you have little to no exposure i think this book is great and written in a very friendly and casual way。 i like the the little drawings too！ i would recommend this to teens and young adults， would be a great gift too i think。 but i just dont think this book dives deeply or brings anything new to the discussion。 i would even go as far as to call it watered down summaries of a bunch of feminist ideas？ at some points i question the credibility of the author， but this could just be very ageist of me， she is very young 🙂i dont love the writing style as it felt a little boss babe rah rah。 it sometimes felt more like a collection of feminist tumblr quotes than a book， but im probably not the target audience！ just reminded me of shitty ig boutiques who call you sweetie， hun， or babe！ 。。。more
Ashleigh Docherty
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This book is a must read for all people no matter how you identify。 I would have benefited so much from reading this as early as 14/15 years old。 I wish I had half the clarity and understanding as Florence does when I was younger。
Isabel Rasmussen
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really， really repetitive and all the ideas should've been way more developed but good introductory book I guess。 really， really repetitive and all the ideas should've been way more developed but good introductory book I guess。 。。。more
Sophie Cole
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Some chapters of the book are interesting， however I feel like the book doesn’t make a lot of clear points， feels like some issues are skimmed over and other issues are heavily repeated。 It says a lot without saying much。 To me it felt like a struggle to finish it
holly。
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Very thought provoking and goes deep into some very important topics。 Important read for all women！
Ally
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I really did want to like this book， as I’ve followed the author on social media for a while and had a lot of respect for her outspokenness and “don’t give a fuck” attitude。 Unfortunately， this book felt to me like an extension of the author’s Instagram posts。 The chapters were short， there was an abundance of quirky illustrations， and the content itself just didn’t provide anything new to me outside of the content I already consume in my daily social media intake as a gen z / millennial。 I didn I really did want to like this book， as I’ve followed the author on social media for a while and had a lot of respect for her outspokenness and “don’t give a fuck” attitude。 Unfortunately， this book felt to me like an extension of the author’s Instagram posts。 The chapters were short， there was an abundance of quirky illustrations， and the content itself just didn’t provide anything new to me outside of the content I already consume in my daily social media intake as a gen z / millennial。 I didn’t feel challenged at all。 。。。more
Cerys Coppins
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I found myself stuck in certain sections where I had to have my own conversations on how I felt。 I didn't always agree with what Given had written， but it did make me see things in a different light。 I feel much more empowered and able to use certain privileges I have rather than what I don't have。 Some very interesting sections on modern day feminism that go deeper than looks。 I found myself stuck in certain sections where I had to have my own conversations on how I felt。 I didn't always agree with what Given had written， but it did make me see things in a different light。 I feel much more empowered and able to use certain privileges I have rather than what I don't have。 Some very interesting sections on modern day feminism that go deeper than looks。 。。。more
Grace Constantinou
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Surprisingly good！ Made me self reflect a lot， especially my own unconscious biases。 I’ve also took action about by my social media following etc。 Whilst a lot of it isn’t exactly new or groundbreaking， Florence is so easy to read and I think it’d be a worthwhile read for any young adult or someone seeking a starter resource for modern day feminism。
Katie Harrison
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So glad I read this book， it's relevant to me at 32 years old but I wish I had read this as a teenager。 Powerful stuff and food for thought for sure。 So glad I read this book， it's relevant to me at 32 years old but I wish I had read this as a teenager。 Powerful stuff and food for thought for sure。 。。。more
Gillian Fung-Quon
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dnf @ 20%Reading this as a young woman who has done a lot of soul searching in the past few years （and a lot of self-education on social justice and related topics）， this book just didn't do it for me。The author is only 21 which makes it difficult to hold these "life lessons" with weight， not to discredit based on age but she unfortunately lacked the experience to back up a lot of her lessons， and a lot of them felt like one liner tips out of a Buzzfeed or Refinery 29 article （not to say they ar dnf @ 20%Reading this as a young woman who has done a lot of soul searching in the past few years （and a lot of self-education on social justice and related topics）， this book just didn't do it for me。The author is only 21 which makes it difficult to hold these "life lessons" with weight， not to discredit based on age but she unfortunately lacked the experience to back up a lot of her lessons， and a lot of them felt like one liner tips out of a Buzzfeed or Refinery 29 article （not to say they aren't valuable， they just don't dig as deep as I like）If you're new to your journey of self-love and/or intersectional feminism this might be a good intro book for you especially because it uses a lot of casual language， making it very accessible。That being said， I would recommend any book written by Brene Brown for self-love and self-acceptance， or even Glennon Doyle for lessons on allowing yourself as a woman to take up space， as a starting point instead of this one。All in all it just felt kind of juvenile， which doesn't mean it doesn't serve a purpose， it just didn't do it for me。 。。。more
Robin Marshall
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A great introduction to feminist literature for anyone that doesn't have any previous experience with this genre。 It is a very accessible piece for all people to connect and relate to。 A great introduction to feminist literature for anyone that doesn't have any previous experience with this genre。 It is a very accessible piece for all people to connect and relate to。 。。。more
Amber Bailey
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I was so excited to read this book for MONTHS and everyone I know rated it so highly but I really struggled to read this and kept putting off finishing it。 I read the first 7/8 chapters and then skimmed the rest。 I don’t know whether I’m already pretty self-aware， being happily married in a straight couple at 25 a lot of the content wasn’t relatable or relevant。 I feel like if I’d read this book at 17 or was single and miserable I might have enjoyed it more。 I also read What a Time to be Alone: I was so excited to read this book for MONTHS and everyone I know rated it so highly but I really struggled to read this and kept putting off finishing it。 I read the first 7/8 chapters and then skimmed the rest。 I don’t know whether I’m already pretty self-aware， being happily married in a straight couple at 25 a lot of the content wasn’t relatable or relevant。 I feel like if I’d read this book at 17 or was single and miserable I might have enjoyed it more。 I also read What a Time to be Alone: The Slumflower's guide to why you are already enough - Chidera Eggerue a few years and absolutely loved it so I don’t know if this is why I didn’t enjoy this book as much。 I’ve read several articles about the similarities between the two and copyright issues。 I do not want to discredit Florence， her options or artwork or how much they have helped several people but this book just wasn’t for me :（ 。。。more
Lauren
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i enjoyed this book but wouldn’t say it changed my LIFE （sorry instagram）。 good beginners guide to basic feminism but didn’t teach me anything new。 seems to say a lot without actually saying much at all ？？？ ‘patriarchy exists but if we dance in our underwear and stick our fingers in our ears and go lalala we can ignore it！’ rather than anything on dismantling the actual system。 BUT 16 year old me would’ve bummed this & it was a nice reminder that girls put up with a lot of shit。 most interesting i enjoyed this book but wouldn’t say it changed my LIFE （sorry instagram）。 good beginners guide to basic feminism but didn’t teach me anything new。 seems to say a lot without actually saying much at all ？？？ ‘patriarchy exists but if we dance in our underwear and stick our fingers in our ears and go lalala we can ignore it！’ rather than anything on dismantling the actual system。 BUT 16 year old me would’ve bummed this & it was a nice reminder that girls put up with a lot of shit。 most interesting chapters:- protect your energy- maybe it’s a girl crush， maybe you’re queer- accountability 。。。more
Radwa
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English Review Below。توقعت شيئا مختلفا من هذا الكتاب، ظننت أنه سيكون كتابا يناقش معايير الجمال والنسوية والمجتمع، لكنه اتضح أنه كتاب تنمية بشرية يناقش النسوية، لكن في الأغلب يناقش العلاقات في ذلك الإطار。 لا أحب كتب التنمية البشرية وكتب العلاقات أشعر بأنها تكرر نفس الكلام。 أظن أن هذا الكتاب يُعد مقدمة لا بأس بها للشابات اللائي ما زلن يحاولن فهم أنفسهن في المجتمع والتعامل مع متطلبات ومعايير المجتمع وشكل العلاقات الصحية، لكنني كنت مدركة بالفعل لكل شيء قرأته في الكتاب ولم يفدني بشيء。 أردت كتابا يناق English Review Below。توقعت شيئا مختلفا من هذا الكتاب، ظننت أنه سيكون كتابا يناقش معايير الجمال والنسوية والمجتمع، لكنه اتضح أنه كتاب تنمية بشرية يناقش النسوية، لكن في الأغلب يناقش العلاقات في ذلك الإطار。 لا أحب كتب التنمية البشرية وكتب العلاقات أشعر بأنها تكرر نفس الكلام。 أظن أن هذا الكتاب يُعد مقدمة لا بأس بها للشابات اللائي ما زلن يحاولن فهم أنفسهن في المجتمع والتعامل مع متطلبات ومعايير المجتمع وشكل العلاقات الصحية، لكنني كنت مدركة بالفعل لكل شيء قرأته في الكتاب ولم يفدني بشيء。 أردت كتابا يناقش المسألة، لكنه كان أشبه بكتاب من قائمة الأشياء المطلوب عملها في العلاقات السليمة والتعامل مع المجتمع。 هذا ليس شيئا سيئا، لكنه ليس شيئا أهوى قرائته، ودفعت نفسي للانتهاء من الكتاب。I totally misunderstood this book。 What I thought to be a nonfiction discussing beauty standards and feminism， turned out to be a self help boo， discussing feminism， but mainly relationships。 I don't do self help books and relationship books seem to say the same thing。 I guess this book is a decent introduction for young readers grappling with their sexuality， society's standards， self perception and other topics， but I had an idea already of everything in the book， and it didn't add much。 I wanted more of a discussion book， but this was more of a list-of-things-to-do in regards to beauty standards and relationships book。 It isn't bad， but not something I like to read， and I pushed myself to get through with。 I guess the colours and illustrations helped a bitI thank Netgalley and Andrews McMeel for the digital ARC。 。。。more
Tina
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